October 2018 Personal
 

Your Choices Create Your Mindset

Discover a new way of living

Posted on 10-08-2018,   Read Time: - Min
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The majority of people feel as though life is happening to them. For example, If they are treated a certain way or some situation shows up in their life regularly, they will point the finger and blame someone else outside of them. Have you ever found yourself doing this?
 
What if life was never happening to you and you were the great creator of every experience you have ever had?

 

If you live from the mindset of knowing and believing that life is not happening to you, rather you are the creator of your life – would you begin to show up differently? And, if you began to show up differently, how would that affect the people around you?
 

If you have a situation in your life that keeps happening over and over again, I hate to be the one to tell you this, but you are being or doing something that is creating it. It’s not just a coincidence, it’s actually that you are choosing it. I know that may seem harsh, but if you get this, your life will get a whole lot easier and you’ll start changing these annoying recurring happenings for good.

Here’s how to start:

Choose A Different Mindset

Creating change for the greater is about you choosing a different mindset. When I finally took a hold of this, I realized that my life was the way it was because of every choice I had made. It was an ‘ah-ha’ moment, and I knew I had to start making some different choices. If I can create this pile of crap, I wonder what would happen if I started choosing differently?
 
Choosing different doesn’t just happen once. It is an ongoing choice to choose what you would like your life to be like. For example, if you have a co-worker or employee who is continuously messing up or causing problems, what does your mind do when you think about them? You go to the expectations of what they have done in the past, so you expect that in the future, right? Wrong!! Stop that! What you want to do is begin to choose to look at them and each situation you come across at the moment, so you can be present for what is and change it. You can always change if you’re willing to choose.

Stop Projecting & Expecting: Ask Questions Instead

If you have the continuous projection that a particular person is going to be a certain way, that is all you are going to ever see in them. Whether you know it or not, your mind is a very powerful tool, and too often you are using it against yourself to expect the bad, ugly and frustrating things. If you would like to change this, to shift what you are currently expecting from fellow workers or people in your life, you’ve got to get curious about if there is a different possibility here. To shift into curiosity, start asking questions, like, what else is possible here? If I hadn’t decided this person or situation was going to be a certain what, what could occur instead? Stay curious to what is possible rather than what you have decided is. Being curious and shifting this mindset piece is simple, yet a muscle you continuously build daily.

Stop Doubting Yourself

Another mindset piece that people often get stuck in is the trap of doubting themselves. Choosing to be in a constant state of doubting yourself can lead to not being respected by others, not being seen by others, or even being taken seriously by others.
 
When you are in a constant state of doubt, you are most likely destroying connections, relationships and possibilities to grow in your career. How do you go beyond doubting yourself? You start by choosing and know what you are choosing in every moment. When you are choosing doubt, know that that is going to create a perpetual state of doubt for you and the people around you. The good news is, the choice is only good for ten seconds, and when you're done with the first ten seconds of doubt, you can either choose to keep having doubt or choose something different. There is a popular saying that goes ‘fake it until you make it.’ Instead of doubt, choose the way you would really like to feel, whether it’s confident, strong, a leader or something else, even if you don’t feel that way right now you must fake it and act as if it is already true for you.
 
The more you choose the confident, strong, doubt-less you, the more you will discover who you actually are, and the doubt will disappear.
 
Know that if you are wanting to change your mindset to allow yourself a greater work environment and more success in business, you have to be willing to choose.
 
The most successful people in business are the ones that know they create their lives.
 
In this moment right now, what can you choose that will create a greater day for you? And, always ask, “How does it get any better than this?” Now go out and take some action on those choices and discover a whole new way of living with a mindset that sets you up for success.
 
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 Author Bio

Brendon Watt Brendon Watt is a speaker, entrepreneur, business and life mentor. He is the Australian CFO of Access Consciousness®, a set of simple-yet-profound tools currently transforming lives in 173 countries, and the facilitator of several special Access programs including Joy of Business. Drawing upon his transformation from a struggling tradesman and single dad to global speaker, Brendon facilitates classes and workshops all over the world, encouraging others to step out of judgement and into a more authentic, fulfilling life.
Visit www.accessconsciousness.com
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