Turning Naysayers Into Innovators
3 useful practices
Just Say No
Simple but never easy
A Relationship Buster - Mind Reading
When in doubt, ask for clarity
What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do
Top tips for you
Turning Naysayers Into Innovators
3 useful practices
Just Say No
Simple but never easy
A Relationship Buster - Mind Reading
When in doubt, ask for clarity
What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do
Top tips for you
Showing up is what almost all of us do. But how many of us step up? Stepping up is simply showing up more powerfully. In our jobs, in our relationships with our colleagues, and even in our personal relationships, we can reach powerful outcomes by aligning our actions and intentions. When we’re conscious of our intentions, we give ourselves freedom to explore how we might achieve our aims.
One fall day, I watched a friend’s seven-year-old son, Sean, play in a soccer game. About a third of the way through, I commented to my friend how impressed I was: “Wow, Sean is right there, in on almost every play of the game.” And, indeed he was. Sean had a knack for putting himself right in the middle of the activity. But about two thirds of the way through the game, my observation changed: “He’s right there, in on almost every play of the game, but he hasn't kicked the ball yet.” Why not?
Finding new product ideas and innovations to excite customers require colossal creative effort and a certain comfort level with risk-taking. The considerable effort to take a product from idea to development to launch is both time and energy intensive. If it also demands dealing with naysayers at the table who poke holes in every idea expressed along the way, valuable momentum is lost.
I got some wonderful advice from Oprah Winfrey, who you can imagine, is inundated with requests for her time and money. She said she used to make excuses or explain conflicts in her schedule, but she has learned to simply say, “No, that isn’t going to work for me.” I have implemented this in my life and have found it to work wonderfully.
Release your attempts at mind-reading when connecting with other people in your life. This happens when you believe you know what another person is thinking or feeling without direct communication from this person. I see you as I am not as you are so in order to see you for you it is essential that I step away from my perspectives. Mind reading wreaks havoc in relationships at work and at home. We take in information from our environment and then we filter the data through our assumptions and conclusions which fuel our beliefs and ultimately our actions.
As a leader, the “buck” for certain decisions stops with you. You’re responsible for outcomes impacting your team, your organization, your career, your family and friends. Sometimes the choice is clear, but frequently, it’s not. Ambiguities are the norm, and while there is pressure to make fast decisions, you know that it’s more important to make timely decisions. Meanwhile, stakeholders press you because they have their own motivations and need to know how your decision impacts them.
Leaders know this, so when they rally everyone around their vision, they count on emotion to unite and motivate the company. But for some reason, when it gets down to the conference room level, emotion and all the power that comes with it, is forgotten. Perhaps it’s because the templates--set up for bullets and charts--are built for the rational side of our minds, but it’s also why so many executives find internal presentations uninspiring and forgettable.
Trusting in the process is not linear. It’s a circular flow, starting with trusting yourself, which then extends to trust in others (the circle of relationships). By trusting in yourself and others, trust in the process naturally occurs. Working the process together with others leads to mutual trust. The benefits of these interactions flow back to you and the cycle continues.
When my colleague Derek Roger and I ask an audience if they believe that a little bit of stress is good for you, almost everyone raises their hand. But when we follow up by asking them how they actually feel when they are stressed, people generally respond that they are miserable. There’s no way that misery is good for us, so the issue here must be a misinterpretation of what “stress” means.