Cheerleader vs. Invalidator
Which one are you?
3 Illegal Behaviors
Avoid it in relationships you care about
On Becoming 70
I’ve made a difference
Motivational Junk Food
What's wrong with it?
Cheerleader vs. Invalidator
Which one are you?
3 Illegal Behaviors
Avoid it in relationships you care about
On Becoming 70
I’ve made a difference
Motivational Junk Food
What's wrong with it?
Women across the globe celebrated International Women’s Day on March 8th. We have come across many women who left their stamps on history, who still rule some of the top organizations and who still are perfect role models for others. But, isn’t there still a huge gap between how men and women are treated? According to the United Nation's annual report on the progress of the world's women, the worldwide gap between women and men remains particularly stubborn on issues of work.
If you are interested in living a long, healthy, and rewarding life, take note of this: There is a direct correlation between how long and how well you will live and the quality of your connection to other people. The Nurses' Health Study at Harvard, the longest running study on health, found that the more friends people have, the less likely they will become physically impaired as they age, and the more likely they will be leading happy, successful lives.
Managers have many roles and responsibilities the least of which is to contribute to an employee’s self-worth and not invalidate them. Know which is your tendency? Know the direct and indirect consequences of each? A cheerleader – an uncritical and enthusiastic supporter. To make others feel valued, worthwhile and encouraged.
Can you imagine having a referee jump in some of your discussions, blowing the whistle and throwing a yellow flag: "15 yard penalty for unsportsmanlike conduct!" How many times in the relationships you care about have you pulled an illegal move? Have you ever metaphorically grabbed the facemask of someone you care about? A word, behavior or action, which does not support healthy connection and contradicts your ultimate goal of healthy connection?
As a kid I had fantasies of what the rest of my life would be. I was going to be (in no particular order): a New York Times Bestselling author (check); a world change agent (check); a singer (Nope!); recognized for my beauty and talent (Um…); a wife to a nice man and mother to 3 kids (In the ballpark.); live happily ever after (Jury is still out.). Some of that came true. But not much. And certainly not like I fantasized.
Have you ever thought about why you get out of bed in the morning (and stay up)? Why do you jump up enthusiastically on some mornings and drag yourself out on others? Have you ever wondered what it takes to walk away from the 500-calorie muffin instead of caving in to the temptation?
You have to confront the reality that something didn’t go right this year. Maybe a lot of somethings. And I don’t care how good your business is, or how well you executed your operating plan this year, something didn’t go right. It takes courage and a bit of humility to admit this. So get on with it. What didn’t go perfectly this year? Dig in until you find it (or them) and do a deep dive to find out how you can make it better next year.
In business, there is an ugly yet undeniable truth: Every single day, talented, hardworking and deserving women are passed over for promotions. While it's easy to blame a corporate culture that favors men, women’s leadership authority Grace Killelea—founder and CEO of Half The Sky Leadership Institute and author of “The Confidence Effect: Every Woman's Guide to the Attitude That Attracts Success,” identifies a differentpersonal accountability-driven culprit: Ashockingly prevalent and grievous disparity in confidence. While men are prone to overestimate their abilities, all too often women sell themselves short and needlessly languish in marginalized careers.
We join a company to make a difference, to make a contribution, to be praised and rewarded. We join a company to bring our voice to the table, and ‘lean into conversations’ so our voices join in the spirit of partnering with others to shape, create and Co-create the future.