How To Find Your Voice In 2020

Top self-leadership tips to exponentialize your impact

In a world where we are primarily taught to build our pictures of success from the examples of others around us, finding your unique voice isn’t always the easiest of tasks. To truly embrace your difference and be it out in the world requires each of us to step into the unfamiliar and go outside our comfort zone in ways we’ve never done, and that nobody else can. 

Finding your voice is about taking the leadership role in your life.  A true leader knows that they are the source of all that is created in their life. They know their choices today will create the future they have tomorrow and years from now.

To create what you know is possible in 2020 and each year after, you have to be willing to shed the limits, judgments and mindsets that confine you and start functioning from a different perspective.

Add these 5 game-changing perspectives to your resolutions list for 2020, and you will be well on your way to finding your voice this year and beyond:

When things don’t work out as we’d predicted or hoped, we call that failure. When we get something right in other people’s eyes or some external measurement, we call that success. One of the primary principles I function from with my business, Belapemo, is that the failure/success paradigm is a limiting mindset. When you decide you got something right or wrong, you stop innovating and creating, either by trying to maintain what you got ‘right’ so as not lose it, and/or by avoiding any choice that might potentially go ‘wrong’. Either way, you cut off possibilities and institute a constant cycle of judgments, limits and doubts. 

Start busting the myth of failure and success and become unstoppably innovative by asking these questions:

If you are willing to flip ideas of right and wrong, failure becomes a treasure trove of possibilities, and success is no longer an ultimate answer or goal, but a springboard for greater innovation. 

When you take away judgments of wrong and right, your voice becomes unconfined and more present in every area of life and business.

How often do you let other people’s opinions and judgments influence your perceptions and choices?  When we make judgment of any kind significant, we give it power over us and give up our voice. 

Judgments are just perspectives that people choose to take, they aren’t real, true, or even necessarily relevant to you. We choose to give judgment power, and we can choose to not let it have any power at all.

A great tool to dissipate the significance and impact of judgments in your life – whether they are coming from you or anyone else – is recognizing that every thought, feeling, emotion, and judgments is simply an interesting point of view. Let the words, “Interesting point of view I have this point of view,” or “Interesting point of view they have that point of view,” become a daily tool in your life. 

Every time you recognize that a point of view is really simply just a point of view, you stop being polarized and function from a more neutral perspective.  This is a powerful way to begin accessing more clarity and choices, that you wouldn’t see otherwise. When you aren’t fighting or defending judgments, you can ask generative questions, like, “What else is possible here we haven’t considered?” “What would I like to choose and what would work for me?” “What choice is going to create greater for all?”

When you end judgment, you find the freedom to choose your voice. When you choose judgment, there is no room for your voice.

What you put your attention on, grows. What would you like to have more of in your life this year? What can you choose that will make your life greater and more joyful?

Gratitude, nurturing and fun are powerful judgment neutralizers – and they have so many benefits including improved health, reduced stress, increased energy, happiness and creativity.  

Want to be happier? Acknowledge what you enjoy in life, have gratitude for choosing that, and why not choose even more? Want to change your body? Be grateful for it exactly as it is right now: thank it, nurture it, treat it as a valuable product, and make a commitment to enjoy it more. Desire more money? Be grateful for every dollar that comes in, don’t dismiss or judge it for not being enough. 

How much fun, nurturing and relaxation do you have with your body?  Have you noticed that when you take care of your body, when you relax, nurture or do something joyful for it, your whole being gets happier? Things also come easier – new ideas and perspectives that were out of reach before start to flow in without effort. What would happen if you chose a lot more of that this year?

Gratitude, nurturance and relaxation give you and your body space to have your voice show up in an ease-filled and organic way. You can’t force your voice into being, you can only allow it to show up.

You don’t need outside validation or proof or reason to choose what you know works for you. We each have a unique perspective and understanding of the world that can contribute immensely if we trust it and let it shine through. How many times have you had a sense or feeling that something was “wonky”, but did it anyway, and that instinct turned out correct? Or you just knew you had to choose something, even though it seemed totally illogical to others or even you, and it somehow created a great outcome or adventure? All those times, your instincts and innate awareness were showing you what your choices would create.  Learn to trust your awareness, and act on it by using these questions:

By asking these questions, you consciously engage with your innate knowing, and develop a sense of which choices will lead you in an expansive or destructive direction.

That instinct, knowing, or awareness – whatever you choose to call it – will develop and become stronger the more you utilize it. To have your voice, you have to trust yourself, and know you can create greater with each choice you make.

Have you always known something greater is possible?  Are you willing to act on that knowing, even if nothing like it currently exists? Even if no one else can see it? 

We all have this awareness of future possibilities. But they usually come to us as a whisper rather than being loud or obvious. If you are willing to listen and act on your awareness of the future, and not give up, you will expand life and business beyond the status quo and be continually on the creative edge of everything you put your attention on. 

Cultivate your vision as a world of possibilities with infinite doors, rather than a finite picture with a particular endgame with these questions:

The principal I live and work by is, “You are never done.” No matter what you achieve, accomplish or create in life, if something inside you says, “If I can do this, what else am I capable of?” – listen to and act on that voice – because it is your voice!

Anytime you go beyond perceived limits, judgments and problems to follow your curiosity, seek possibilities and new choices, you will find your voice and begin leading yourself to create greater than you think is possible. Best of all, you will walk through the world as an irresistible invitation for others to have their voice and become leaders in the world, too.