Thinking Of Dating Your Co-Worker? Think Again.
Tips to consider love contracts a part of your HR policy
Posted on 02-27-2018, Read Time: Min
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The recent and poignant worldwide conversation on sexual harassment and abuse of power has spawned a more expansive dialogue about whether consensual relationships in the workplace are acceptable.
For years, the modern workplace has proven to be a very reliable matchmaker. In fact, an estimated 22% of American couples met at work.1 In addition, fully 35% of workers worldwide report having at least one relationship with a coworker in the past, 37% of males, and 34% of females.2 And fully 84% of Millennials are open to dating a coworker.2
Barack and Michelle Obama. Bill and Melinda Gates. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton. All of these famous people met their love at work.
Objectively, there are pros and cons of dating someone at work. On one hand, considering dating someone at work has the benefit of widening the potential pool of love interests. On the other hand, many people fear the drama that comes with the post-breakup aftermath, as well as being perceived as “unprofessional.” With that said, think of Jim and Pam from the television show The Office. Each of them found someone special and there was no terrible breakup. That can happen in real life, too.
Some people don’t even want to date their co-worker, and simply come up with “work arounds” (pun intended). Of the 35% of the Match survey respondents who had “dated” a coworker, 65% of them had a one-night stand, and 56% of them had a FWB relationship. That is “friends with benefits,” of course.
As inferred in my opening paragraph here, and largely due to the #MeToo movement, organizations are now reconsidering what “human resources” means to some employees and revisiting their workplace dating policies. Simply put, the climate has never had more grey area.
Yes, in the past, the lion’s share of organizations had policies prohibiting managers from dating people they manage. But now these dating policies are burgeoning into whole new areas. Some organizations are adopting more draconian steps, such as prohibiting any workplace dating whatsoever. Others are requiring “love contracts” to be signed, otherwise known as “consensual romance in the workplace” contracts. These “love contracts” may sound a little awkward to facilitate (or enter into), but they make a lot of sense from a legal perspective.
If your organization is concerned with issues arising from dating in the workplace, you might want to consider making love contracts a part of your HR policy. A typical love contract requires both parties to agree to the following terms:
For years, the modern workplace has proven to be a very reliable matchmaker. In fact, an estimated 22% of American couples met at work.1 In addition, fully 35% of workers worldwide report having at least one relationship with a coworker in the past, 37% of males, and 34% of females.2 And fully 84% of Millennials are open to dating a coworker.2
Barack and Michelle Obama. Bill and Melinda Gates. Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. Gwen Stefani and Blake Shelton. All of these famous people met their love at work.
Objectively, there are pros and cons of dating someone at work. On one hand, considering dating someone at work has the benefit of widening the potential pool of love interests. On the other hand, many people fear the drama that comes with the post-breakup aftermath, as well as being perceived as “unprofessional.” With that said, think of Jim and Pam from the television show The Office. Each of them found someone special and there was no terrible breakup. That can happen in real life, too.
Some people don’t even want to date their co-worker, and simply come up with “work arounds” (pun intended). Of the 35% of the Match survey respondents who had “dated” a coworker, 65% of them had a one-night stand, and 56% of them had a FWB relationship. That is “friends with benefits,” of course.
As inferred in my opening paragraph here, and largely due to the #MeToo movement, organizations are now reconsidering what “human resources” means to some employees and revisiting their workplace dating policies. Simply put, the climate has never had more grey area.
Yes, in the past, the lion’s share of organizations had policies prohibiting managers from dating people they manage. But now these dating policies are burgeoning into whole new areas. Some organizations are adopting more draconian steps, such as prohibiting any workplace dating whatsoever. Others are requiring “love contracts” to be signed, otherwise known as “consensual romance in the workplace” contracts. These “love contracts” may sound a little awkward to facilitate (or enter into), but they make a lot of sense from a legal perspective.
If your organization is concerned with issues arising from dating in the workplace, you might want to consider making love contracts a part of your HR policy. A typical love contract requires both parties to agree to the following terms:
- Acknowledge that they recognize their employer as an Equal Opportunity Workplace.
- Affirm that their employer does not tolerate any form of harassment, abuse of power, and/or discrimination.
- Agree to report any perceived harassment, abuse, and/or discrimination to management.
- Recognize that they have knowingly entered an entirely consensual relationship.
- Maintain complete professionalism at work, despite their personal relationship, especially if their personal relationship ends.
- Promise that their relationship will not have a negative impact on their work or productivity.
- They will not engage in any public displays of affection or other behaviors that might create a hostile work environment for others, or that might make others uncomfortable.
- Agree that their relationship may require them to transfer to another department and/or remove any other conflicts of interest in the organization’s workplace.
- Concur that they will not participate in any workplace decision-making process that could affect one another’s pay, promotion opportunities, hours, shift, performance reviews, or career, both while the personal relationship exists, as well if, and after, the relationship ends.
While love may be in the air, as well as what we consistently yearn for, organizations need to better protect themselves and their employees more than ever. Have you? L&C
Sources
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- Huffington Post, 2015
- Match, Singles in America Study, 2015
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Kevin Sheridan has spent thirty years as a high-level Human Capital Management consultant. He has helped some of the world’s largest corporations break down detrimental processes and rebuild a culture that fosters productive engagement, earning him several distinctive awards and honors in the process. Kevin’s newest product, PEER®, is consistently recognized as a long overdue, industry-changing innovation in the field of Employee Engagement, and his most recent book, “Building a Magnetic Culture,” made it to the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and USA Today best-seller lists.
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