Never let the opinions of others determine your self concept and what you think about yourself, you cannot afford not to know who you are, you cannot afford not to know your capabilities, and you cannot afford not to know that you are gifted, able and capable.

It is very dangerous when you don’t know who you are and where your strengths lie. Without a positive self concept people can damage your self confidence, they will try and make you feel inadequate, they will try and make you feel like you aren’t gifted, they will try and make you feel incapable, they will make you question your ability and most of the time it’s because they don’t know who they are and when they see you striving to move from the bottom to the top, they try to discourage you so that you stay at the bottom with them.

If you know who you are and have a positive self image then their negativity towards you won’t affect you because within you, you already know you are capable, you already know you have what it takes, you already know you are skilled, you already know you were born to do what you are doing, you already know where you are going and the potential and skills that lie within you, your positive self image will be your defense against their negativity. But if you don’t know who you are and the potential inside you, when you are faced with people who begin to doubt and criticize you, you might end up becoming a victim to their thoughts because you never took the time to cultivate your mind and transform it to believe in your purpose, potential and capabilities.

In essence what I am saying is that in life you will never go beyond the thoughts you have about yourself so you have to ensure that the thoughts you have about yourself are good thoughts, thoughts about your purpose and potential, thoughts of you making it, thoughts of you accomplishing your goals, thoughts of you being a champion, a winner, so that when people try to make you feel any less they won’t succeed and you will be able to rise above the negative concepts they have of you because you know who you are and therefore aren’t affected by their negativity.

If you don’t know who you are then their negative thoughts and comments will affect you and keep you at the bottom, making excuses, believing that you aren’t good enough, and believing that you can’t make it, believing that you’re just average and not anything special. Don’t let them keep you at the bottom, you are too good for the bottom, you are too skilled for the bottom, you are too gifted for the bottom, you have too much potential to stay at the bottom, you belong at the top, you belong in the assembly of the successful, the assembly of champions and winners, never let anyone tell you otherwise.

This post is written by Alex Wise who works as a marketing consultant for Loveawake.com dating site and a blog contributor. Check out the company site and follow them on Facebook and Twitter