My husband was terminated from his job last June because he was told it absolutely was “not an honest match.” He worked from home and I could tell that during conference calls he was usually either blamed for not getting a job done on time or was defensive concerning the work he did.
It’s now March and still no job prospects. He is very defensive when I suggest job opportunities, networking, or re-training. I am to the point where I am shutting down because of his attitude, but finances are becoming critical. How do I discuss with him about real solutions for job hunting and networking without him getting so defensive?
Regards,
Amal
Ans. Dear Amal,
Thanks for asking a tough question. The sad truth is that time doesn’t invariably heal all wounds. Sometimes a personal calamity such as termination, death, divorce, financial loss, etc. creates a vortex that grows with time—engulfing the person, and consumption their favorite or loved ones into a growing spiral of failure.
It sounds as if your husband is caught in this kind of vicious cycle, and it’s reaching into your relationship. Take heart. There are ways to break free, but it will take effort on your part—and some of this effort might seem counterintuitive at first.
