Last week we talked about the first of four reasons for all relationship problems: Failure to speak your truth. This week I want to talk about the second reason for relationship problems: Failure to set an appropriate boundary.
It stands to reason that if you aren’t speaking your truth, you probably aren’t setting appropriate boundaries.
Lesson #2: Setting Appropriate Boundaries
A boundary is something you have control over. If you have an open door policy and you need to adjust it so that you are not overwhelmed, that boundary is in your control. You can say, “The door is open between 2:00 and 4:00 every day.” Or you can say the door is open by appointment. The point is, if others are taking advantage of you in any way, you can’t blame them. You have to look in the mirror and see where you are not expressing or enforcing a boundary. This principle is as important if not more so in your personal life.
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Marlene Chism is a consultant, national speaker and author of Stop Workplace Drama (Wiley 2011). Marlene’s passion is developing wise leaders and helping people to discover, develop and deliver their gifts to the world. Marlene’s message is spreading across the country at association meetings, corporate retreats, universities and other venues. If interested in exploring speaking or training opportunities please call 1.888.434.9085