The building blocks of Honouring have beeb undervalued. One stumbling block to sound relationships, according to The Arbinger Institute, is seeing people as objects instead of seeing people as people. Their finding has a direct correlation to what I call Honouring. The first thing to be conscious of in using this fuel is to guard against viewing people as objects.

I was flying home with my wife, Jenni from a European speaking engagement when we found ourselves boarding a transfer bus that would take us from one terminal to another. Of course everyone from the airplane was jamming into this small bus. Jenn found a seat and I stood. Noticing a lady standing nearby, holding a young baby, Jenn immediately rose to give mother and baby her seat. Next to the aisle where I was standing, a woman was seated with her luggage, purse, passport and jacket piled on the seat next to her. She had obviously put all of these possessions on the seat beside her, so that no one else could sit there.

With this action she was selfishly viewing all of us standing in that bus as objects, rather than humans. The first step in honouring others is when we chose to see people not as objects (to be used), but as created beings, as equals.

There is power in in the reciprocal nature of Honouring. As you choose to honour those around you, you will discover that those people tend to look for ways to reciprocate, because, as Psychologist Robert Cialdini has noted, the entire North American culture has totally bought into and feeds off of the principle of reciprocity. If we do not pay attention and find ways to honour people... we will end up with a life where people will choose not to honour us, our company or our family. The obvious goal is not to abuse this knowledge, but rather to use it for the greater good, which in this case is to proactively create a culture of honour. 

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