By Marcia Eager, LCSW

Solutions Program Coordinator

Community

“In our hectic, fast-paced, consumer-driven society, it's common to feel overwhelmed, isolated and alone. Many are re-discovering the healing and empowering role that community can bring to our lives. The sense of belonging we feel when we make the time to take an active role in our communities can give us a deeper sense of meaning and purpose. “
-- Robert Alan

Do you know your neighbors? If you had an emergency tonight could you call on and know you would get support from your neighbor? If you do not answer yes to both of these questions you have some work to do.

Just as there are diverse people in the workplace so too is there diversity in our community. Part of living together and prospering is to understand those differences and how they can enrich our community.

} How boring would you consider life if everyone thought the same way?

} How boring would you consider life if everyone thought the same way and it wasn’t your way?

} Do you have a neighborhood store run by someone from a different culture, nationality, country? Have you ever talked to them about the differences?

} Do you have block parties in your neighborhood just to enjoy your community and get to know your neighbors?

} Do you have people from diverse backgrounds in your neighborhood and have you reached out to get to know them?

} Are you active in your community whether it is through the Town or City Government, the school system or your religious affiliation? If not, why not and if so are you tolerant of different viewpoints?

The following are some ideas about ways you can contribute to making your community a great place.

* Go out of your way to meet someone in your community who comes from a different culture, religion, etc.
* Attend a lecture about something you know little or nothing about but have always wanted to learn more.
* Get involved in starting or participating in a neighborhood watch program.
* Volunteer in your school system.
* Get to know the elected officials in your community.
* Visit a local art gallery or show that spotlights local talent.
* Bring cookies to your local firehouse to say thank you!
* Participate in a community project that embraces differences and enriches the lives of the members of that community. This can only lead to a better place to live.

The list, once started can go on and on. It doesn’t have to cost much money or take much time so - Be creative and think outside of the box as you expand your own tolerance level and STAY COOL!

Increased tolerance begins with each one of us. Before you make a comment about someone's gender, race, ethnicity or religion ask yourself - "Would it be ok for me to overhear someone say that about my gender/race/ethnicity/religion?" Once you say something negative about someone else you give permission for them to say something negative about you.

Call Solutions EAP at 1-800-526-3485 for assistance for all of life's challenges.

It’s free, confidential and open to your family members.

Check us out on-line at
http://www.solutions-eap.com

George "Bud" Wassell, M.S., LPC, CEAP
Director, Solutions EAP
213 Court Street
Middletown, CT 06457
1-800-526-3485
fax: 860-704-6221
www.solutions-eap.com